Has anyone heard of the new(ish) app TwoGrand? It’s free and a tool to visually document everything you eat, your exercise, and how much water you drink…it also links you with other people who are following similar diets or have similar goals. I am enjoying it because I love the visual inspiration of what other people are eating/drinking and it gives me some new ideas; also, it is weirdly effective for me as an accountability measure…I’m not going to eat that free pumpkin pie at work because then I would have to document it!! Finally, the ability to track how much water I am drinking (with an established goal amount) is huge for me and I think it’s altogether possible I am not dehydrated for the first time ever. As fun as it is to stalk and be stalked by strangers, if anyone I know wants to join this community, I’m sdclmt417 🙂
Everyone says in order to succeed with health related goals, you have to be really clear and specific with your motivation. I rarely hear people talk about this, but my motivation with my diet and exercise is to be a kind and engaged person. I have been noticing when I drink a lot of water, do some yoga, and eat “clean” that I am more patient and even-keeled; I am “serenely Sarah”!
I recently had an incident in which I had a snappish exchange with someone in a time pressure situation. These things happen, right? I assumed the next day it would be forgotten….but then that person seemed to not be speaking to me. So (naturally!) I didn’t speak to her either. In my head, I had a self-justifying narrative stream and worked myself into quite the righteous indignation. I festered. I stewed. I let it spill over and breed discontent in my life.
A truly regretful and embarrassing amount of time passed. Over a month! Finally my thoughts shifted from my perspective to empathizing with hers. My heart softened. I wasn’t worried about whether I was “right” or not, because ultimately I wasn’t right in the way I was conducting myself every single day since the conflict had occurred. So I reached out and expressed my regret and she immediately and graciously responded and the weight lifted from my shoulders was immense.
I don’t want to say this is a pattern for me, but it might be fair to say. Except in the past sometimes I haven’t had that final conversation. I haven’t put aside my fear or pride or self-righteousness and I’ve let relationships deteriorate and cease to be. It’s still taking me waaay longer than I would like to process difficult situations, move past the ego, and respond in the way I want to, but I am making progress.
I’m sure my advancing age and the experience and maturity that comes with it plays a role, but again, I feel strongly that my mood and mental processes are supported and strengthened by basic lifestyle choices like getting enough sleep, regularly doing yoga, drinking lots of water, and eating unprocessed food. My motivation isn’t to look good in a swimsuit or be a size 0. My motivation is to treat all the people with whom I interact with the respect, kindness, and dignity that they deserve.
May we let go of resentments, and release our fear and sorrow in so doing.